There is so much of me that you can’t see because I don’t always have the words. This morning at the gym, a man took weights from the machine I was clearly using. If you go to the gym, you know there is a basic etiquette: don’t take weights from someone else’s machine, put your own weights away, throw away your used tissues. None of this should need explaining. When I protested in French, he waved me off. But I persisted. Eventually, he put the weights back. When I finished,