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Recently I had a session with a young man who complained of angry outbursts. He wanted them to stop. When I questioned him further, he explained his very difficult and uncomfortable situation. He had relocated to a new country three years ago as a young adult, following his parents, who had wanted the move. He didn’t speak the language, nor did his family. His current girlfriend, a native of the new country, was unsure about how much she wanted to commit to him and didn’t se

Or how psychoanalytically trained therapists listen… A friend of mine used to tell me how useless therapy was for him, because “all I would do was vent.” He would complain mostly about his spouse, his children, and the unfairness of everything. Perceived snubs, office drama, boring weekends – all of it- would be spooled out in fifty-minute diatribes that he hoped would alleviate… something, somehow. The therapists would offer unworkable solutions… (“let’s bring your wife in a

Why your therapist should not (only) be a screen...